How come there is so many commercials to make a guy hard but not something for women that will enjoy sex more? No pun intended in this but why are women getting royally fucked?

Erection medication exists to make penetrative sex possible at all for the men who need it. Whether the sex is pleasurable or not is a different thing. The female equivalent to erection pills already exists and it’s lubricant

There’s shops advertising women’s toys but I’ve never seen anything for men… Not sure where you hang out that you get to see those kinds of ads

Because marketers found it far more effective to make ads targeting women appeal to their anxieties.

There’s a conflation of concepts here. Having an erection and enjoying sex are two separate things. Porn stars take Viagra to stay hard for uncomfortable sex for instance and men have been slipped Viagra to make it easier to sexually assault. It’s easy to give a man an erection. The mechanism is well known that you want to ultimately get vasodilation going on in the corpus cavernosum so blood pools there. Enjoying sex more is a much broader thing for women (and men). It’s possible that someone who had a pubic nerve injury or has cardiovascular problems would have better sex with Viagra. The problem might be elsewhere. Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s pain/vaginismus. Maybe it’s not having explored one’s body yet.

EDIT: While doing research for this question, I stumbled on filbanserin currently in phase III trials and Bremelanotide.

I remember hearing some years ago that Viagra was also effective in getting women in the mood.

I’m guessing it’s the usual, it’s more complicated, expensive, and the people who make those decisions aren’t interested in women’s pleasure.