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My internal reaction is always, “Wow, are you sure?” I don’t say it, of course.
Kids just aren’t for everyone.
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And this is one of those things where you can’t be sure but you do it anyway
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Meh, we had our first at 23 years old. It totally changes your life, but I didn’t see it as ruining it - just a different path. However life was simpler back then: on a single income we afforded a house, a car, and a motorcycle (so we both had vehicles) and were contributing to a pension fund.
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I just feel sorry for the child. What a world they’re inheriting. Imagine getting out of high school in 2045. Things are going to be so bad.
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Yeah this is also why I don’t want children. Its like “yay new life welcome to the water wars”
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How big of a disruption a kid is in your life really depends on what you were doing before having a kid. If pre kid you loved going to concerts, partying, travelling internationally, or other activities where having a kid makes it difficult to do the things you enjoy, then the kid might feel absolutely life changing.
However me and my wife are true home bodies whose hobbies pre kid were all either in the home or outside in nature or our garden. Having a kid made absolutely nothing we did before impossible, it merely made us have less time to do those things. The fact that my wife didn’t work even before the kid also helped as I can imagine going from work to a 1,5 year parental leave as being a huge life disruption.
Having the kid absolutely changed our life in a major way. But probably far less so than it does to other people. And I would absolutely not say it was life ruining.
because they are being supported by SO financially, otherwise they wouldnt be able to do on thier own. while a tthe same time on some forums chiding some of thier adult siblings for not being independant.
