LPT: If you have a friend who isn't as talkative in group settings, try to bring them in & include them when a group conversation is happening around them

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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/UserAccount55 on 2026-07-09 03:44:10+00:00.

Just want to ramble on about this. But I appreciate those people who do try bringing me in to conversations in group settings rather than ignoring me or just making it awkward like “why are you so quiet”.

If I’m talking to someone 1 on 1, we have each others undivided attention, and depending on the person and the topics, we can have some real good chats.

But I’ll admit, when it comes to bigger group conversations, I do feel lost at times or not knowing how or when to jump in because someone’s always talking the entire time (as opposed to 1 on 1 when you know you can go back and forth).

Today for instance, I was talking with one of my friends at work. We were talking for most of a 30 or so minute span. Once her friends came back from their lunch break, they all just started talking to each other again and I felt almost excluded/almost waiting and hoping one of them would just bring me in to the conversation in some way.

There have been times where people do and I really appreciate it. Something as simple as looking to me and being like “what do you think?” Or even just mentioning my name to “bring me back in to this” I appreciate too because that shows awareness and them probably understanding I’m not just butting in to a conversation but if I’m “included/invited” I’m more than happy to chat and join in.

Believe me, you won’t realize how much of a difference this makes. And they might not ever say it, but they’ll appreciate you immensely for doing that for them.