I now get anxiety as I’m talking that the word I need two or three words from now just isnt there.
1 monthI can relate to this. Sometimes I feel like my vocabulary is the thing lacking, I don’t know if that’s actually what it is but I’ve started to read books again because of it. Recently picked up Count of Monte Cristo and am liking it so far. Not sure if it’s helping, but it’s good.
- 1 month
If i cant smoke and swear then I’m fucked. I only got my grade 10. I wont be able to properly defend myself
- 1 month
I should get checked because I probably wouldn’t be such an interjection when I run ideas contrary to the current conversation.
It’s funny, at the early stage, but I tend to get abandoned.
- 1 month
If what you want to say is a 20mm cannon round then maybe dial it back a bit unless you’re trying to blow up family dinner
- 1 month
Also, what I want to say compared to my patience to type it on a touch screen with my thumbs.
- 1 month
When i get excited or angry my ability to articulate goes out the window. It usually comes out as mumbled gibberish
- 1 month
I’ve noticed over the last 6 years it’s becoming more difficult to order at drivethrus. not because I have changed, but because the kids working there have.
the kids working in that position these days were in or just entering Jr high when covid hit. they lost important years of social growth through almost their entire highschool career.
the future looks bleak.
I don’t get it. People can’t speak?
I understand not wanting to speak, but not the lack of ability.
- 1 month
Of course I can speak. I spend fifteen minutes practicing my order in my head first, of course. And then yeah, I probably get the words on the wrong order. But they’re all mostly there.
Fifteen? Is that it?
When people talk about inner monologues, mine is just literally scripting. The worst is after social interaction, where my brain has to ruminate over it and script for the next time. Stupid brain won’t stop, and all the way home, sometimes even sounds and gestures leak out as my brain frantically scripts and I hate it. Like, just shut up, brain!
It’s common in neurodivergent people.
It was a big problem for me for a long time. The words are in my head, but my mouth couldn’t articulate the sounds and sometimes it was literal nonsense sounds that came out my mouth.
Weirdly enough, it turned out that I had a sensitivity to eggs that was making that (and my mental health) a lot worse.*
Even now, ten years on, when I can articulate a long sentence without tripping over my words, it still feels like a little victory.
This is a completely different thing from mutism btw.
*Unfortunately, the price of lower anxiety and better speech was losing a lot of my neutral/useful autistic traits as well.
- 1 month
I’m autistic,and yes, I sometimes can’t speak.
I try to say something, but instead it comes out in a way no one can understand.
- 1 month
For whatever it’s worth, whenever I am finally able to understand thoughts that come from a way different context than my own it is super satisfying. It’s like finding a hidden world that was underneath my feet all along.
- 1 month
“I have one main point I want to convey with five points of supporting evidence but actually each of those require arguing and some qualifications and point 4 is an essential part of the argument for point 1 and all of this reminds me of a funny conversation in a tv show that to me does a better job of explaining it but if you haven’t seen it what’s really important about that show is that it came out at the height of the War on Terror and -”
You probably stopped listening around the word “supporting” and I don’t blame you for that
- 1 month
The problem is thoughts are a web, and speech is a line. Someday I hope we will be able to brain dump through our neural implants.
I also struggle to relate to this! My husband says he feels like this a lot, and I’m like, how? you’ve been speaking one language for 3 + decades, that’s plenty of practice lol! But that’s okay. He’ll get there eventually.
- 1 month
Sometimes there is a disconnect between what your brain wants to do and what it does. Just requires a little understanding. It’s not like your husband can explain it either. The brain is complicated.
Another example: sleep paralysis. It’s very weird but years ago I experienced it. I woke up but couldn’t move. Very scary and strange, but not that uncommon.
I’m not really sure what your problem with me is, but I bet I’ve been married longer than you have, and it’s 100% okay to frustrate each other sometimes and then laugh about it later. It’s also okay to admit you can’t perfectly relate to something your partner experiences, and it is going to happen unless you somehow managed to marry yourself.
My best guess is that I remind you of someone who wasn’t patient with you in a really devastating way, causing all of this projection, and I’m genuinely sorry that happened to you. But you don’t actually know me, and you couldn’t possibly know what I’m like based on a couple of silly comments online.
- 1 month
What happens is when people get told they’re weird because of the way they are, it hurts. Yeah that’s happened to me many times and it sucks a lot. Fortunately my current partner is pretty understanding.
Like I said sorry that happened to you and I hope you’ll have a lot of success in your relationship
- 1 month
I read / heard somewhere, that if you can’t really put somethings into words, you don’t understand it as well as you think you do.
It’s bullshit. Some people have genuine issues speaking their thoughts from a variety of disabilities, and other people are just plain bad at explaining things
- minfapper@piefed.socialEnglish1 month
Eh, not being able to explain it elegantly on the spot in front of people understandable.
But if can’t come up with a simple explanation even when you’re by yourself with all the time in the world, then yeah you probably don’t understand it well enough.
It’s for people that say “it’s a complex topic. You wouldn’t be able to understand it”. Bitch, the human brain is amazing. People can understand anything they want to. You’re just too lazy to help them.
- 1 month
Talking is such an overwhelming method of communication though, and it requires constant and very precise, physical and mental coordination to be effective.
I sound stupid and crazy when I try to talk, all the sensory input fries my brain and makes me panic.
- 1 month
In the context of a technical discussion, that assertion might hold water, but this meme is referring to discussing one’s feelings.
So, in a way, you’re kind of right.
