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Cake day: January 2nd, 2025
  • Connecting remotely to your home devices is dependent on your home internet connection’s upload speed, which is usually a fraction of the download speed.

    Then add the overhead of the VPN (Tailscale) and how direct of a connection it’s able to make.

    Then the connection of the device you’re testing from - it may have some bandwidth limitations.

    I just did a quick test - copy a specific file from a local server to my phone - just enabling Tailscale made that copy take twice as long, so it’s definitely adding significant bandwidth constraints (could be an Android limitation).

  • Sounds like you have difficulties of your own that you may want work on before concerning yourself with others.

    You can’t help another sailboat if your own boat isn’t stable.

    I highly recommend some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - recognizing your own anxiety shows you at least have that awareness. Learning to reframe it will go a long way.

    Going through life “as an anxious person” as if that’s unchangeable, is no way to live.