Vanth

Nope, I was one specifically not calling you a rapist. You go from head over heels with this ex to facing rape allegations and loss of all friends to being ready to propose in a matter of a month.

This is me as brutally candid internet stranger who doesn’t care about being your friend - you might want to slow down a tick and get some therapy before you charge into another frantic, unstable, even dangerous relationship. Jumping out of an abusive relationship and immediately into a new relationship is one of the worst things to do, giving yourself no time to heal and get your head on right.

I’ll block you now if you prefer. It bums me out to see a fellow human fight so hard for shit relationships.

I really hope this isn’t with the woman who alleged you raped her. I think you would bother be better off forgetting the other even exists.

User tags exist. My tag for you is getting quite the few descriptors tacked on.

Today’s Baader–Meinhof phenomenon is this topic, apparently.

Haven’t seen it yet but suddenly seeing everywhere the recommendation for The Furious. By the same studio that did John Wick. 80s style flick where the martial arts action is the point of the movie and everything else is a vehicle to highlight the fighting.

It recently won a decent award at a Chinese film fest so that’s probably why it is suddenly popping up on my radar. I hope this movie is as good as all the hype.

There are other 2025/2026 movies with the same name, so look for the one from Lionsgate studio and with Xie Miao in the lead role.

(Raised Catholic)

Interesting, raised with the idea of eternal existence was a terror to me. Obviously eternal hell was an awful idea, but even an eternity in heaven too. Thinking of never-ending subservience to a god that rained down horrors and demanded his followers do terrible things, it didn’t make me feel any better when I was told my imperfect human brain couldn’t comprehend the actions of a “perfect” deity. So getting to heaven meant my mind would have to so fundamentally change to be happy with this god that I would no longer be Me. That was the existential horror to me and it was a great relief to deconstruct in my teens years.

Is the breakup and ending of friendships related to the rape accusations levied against you that you posted about 20 days ago?

https://lemmy.ca/comment/23387798

Burying the lede there a bit if that’s the fuller context to your situation.

Edit: I’m not saying I think you’re a rapist. I don’t have enough information to formulate an opinion responsibly. I’m pointing out your former friends seem to have that perception, so that might contribute to you feeling like they’re all staring a hole into the side of your head.

I’m going to apply a user tag and stop engaging now. Arguing with me is not where you need to spend your energy, nor I with you.