I am a father of two. Wife was working today. It is very warm today, so I wanted to go swimming with my kids. My son was oke. My daughter also wanted to go, but she was on her period. She didn’t want to go swimming in this situation. But for her it is also a very warm day. How can she find cooling? Any tips?
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- 11 days
I just asked my wife who was a competitive swimmer and still swims often. Her response verbatim:
“I’d just wear a tampon or menstrual cup and still go swimming. I never even noticed it if I just shoved it far enough. Other than that, ice cream, but it has to have brownie chunks or it doesn’t work.”
Something tells me that last bit was more a hint for me though
- 11 days
Sounds like solid advice, but my daughter is not comfortable with tampons (yet). She at least has had some icecream today. But so did my son and I haha
- 11 days
Perfectly understandable if she’s not comfy with tampons yet!
Then I’m going to second the advice of sitting at the edge of the pool with her feet in the water, spray bottles with water, damp compress on the back of her neck, shade/hats. Ice cream is good, too!!
Some companies have started selling period panties made for swimming, see if you can find some and maybe she can swim comfortably going forward.
There are other ways to play with water, like running through a water spreader, water balloons, water gun fight. She can do all of these with whatever her protection of choice is currently.
You can make popsicles by putting decarbonated soda or lemonade or juice (I like mine a bit watered down) in the freezer. Mini ones with icecube trays (and tooth picks?) or larger ones in trays bought specifically for the purpose (or home invented).
Staying in shade and having a fan for cooling off also helps, but isn’t as fun. Going for a bike ride down a fairly flat and shaded park or forest trail could be more fun way to get some wind.
- 8 days
ice cubes in the bong is pretty refreshing imo
- 11 days
Assuming that people who menstruate = women is somewhat short-sighted, particularly in the fediverse.
- 8 days
banning trans people for being ever-so-slightly impolite in standing up to bigotry while leaving blatantly transphobic replies intact? lemmy.world moment!
- 11 days
as a trans woman i dont see a problem with this post most woman do menstruate just because im the odd one out doesn’t mean i should be offended when questions like this are asked
- scops@reddthat.comEnglish11 days
OP is a dad trying to help his pubescent daughter be comfortable. I feel like the trans people I know would extend him grace here
- ProfessorScience@lemmy.worldEnglish11 days
This sounds like getting offended just for the sake of getting offended. Surely there’s some room for not requiring 100% precision at all times?
- 11 days
Since JKR’s bullshit it has become increasingly important to get it right.
It’s ignoring that an entire group of people exists, I’m so fucking sorry that attempting to be inclusive is somehow offensive to you.
When it’s people of color, everyone loses their goddamn minds, but when it’s trans people it’s “okay to not be 100% perfect”
Fuck off with this closeted transphobia and admit you just don’t care enough about Trans people to be precise.
Edit: if you’re gonna comment another transphoobia supporting thing, just fuck off or admit you don’t care about trans people and inclusivity, honestly just go to Twitter or whatever trump is on nowadays because you clearly belong there.
- 11 days
Would “females” be a better term? It’s more accurate to be sure, but using the word “females” - in (American) English at least - has a weird connotation that I don’t always like.
“people with vaginas” encompasses everyone regardless of sexual identity, gender assignment, or anything else really.
My spouse is non-binary, has a vagina. Two of my male best friends have vaginas, although one had a historectomy and no longer menstruates. A few other friends have vaginas although I’m not sure if they menstruate anymore. One is gender fluid and has a vagina.
“male/man female/woman” is gendered language, and insisting that only women have vaginas and menstruate is 100% just saying a whole group of people isn’t important enough for consideration, and that is inherently transphobic.
And for the record, yes “female” has a weird connotation in the US because right wing weirdos and incels seem to be unable to say “women” and don’t view women as people.
Menstruation is imherently female (binary)
Holy transphobia, batman, they’ve forgotten transmascs exist!
About 25% of my friends are men who menstruate.
- 11 days
Would you like me to change the title to “bloody cunts of Lemmy…”?
Ooh come on, you did not have to be snarky like that.
- 11 days
Actually if you read this again it goes like this: women of lemmy = people that menstruate. Assuming that women menstruate is a normal assumption. And asking women how to deal with such issues is also perfectly normal and alright.
Normal ≠ okay
It was once normal to call black people by a slur.
It was once normal to backhand a woman for daring to speak around men.
Don’t tell a marginalized group that they’re overreacting for being marginalized and someone comes in and says “it’s normal so shut up about it”
- 404@lemmy.zipEnglish11 days
Not a woman, but water in a spray bottle to mimic sweating cools you down a lot. Sweating is very effective for cooling.
