- 13 days
When you can’t be yourself around them without feeling judged by them.
- 13 days
Having been in this position before when I was a huge piece of shit, it would behoove someone to engage in a little introspection. Turns out I was an angsty and emotionally disregulated little twat. To be fair those “friends” also kinda sucked from how they treated me while I was in some of the deepest depression of my life, but I didn’t make it easy to like me.
- 13 days
Hey just wanted say, respec for growing, recognizing your growth, and sharing the experience of checking your own shoes
13 days- When you’re playing tennis and the ball never comes back over the net.
- When you’re in a Barbershop Trio.
- When the warranties have run out on the current ones.
- When you look in the sand and there are no footprints.
- When you burst into tears every time you eat “Share Size” candy.
- When the short alien with the glowing finger goes back home.
- When the Jumbotron zooms in on you sitting there by yourself, and you’re forced to kiss your hand.
- When your friends didn’t invite you to the theme park and there was a tragic roller coaster accident.
- When you’re watching “Friends” and think that the characters are actually friends.
- 13 days
When you’re watching “Friends” and think that the characters are actually friends.
They’re a polycule.
- 13 days
I’m expecting most answers to be about how to recognize bad people, but here is one if your friends are good decent individuals:
When you fantasize about doing activities with friends, you know none of your current group would vibe with that.
- HobbitFoot @thelemmy.clubEnglish13 days
That’s usually more a case when you add a friend group rather than replace one.
Well “need new friends” doesn’t necessarily have to mean “need to replace your old friends,” even though it’s often interpreted as such. Sometimes you just need more friends than you currently have, even if the ones you have are good ones.
- 13 days
Well, obviously, you don’t just ghost your old group, but you shouldn’t be surprised if you drift away from them, either.
- 12 days
This was/is me with the friends I made back in school except two of them.
All except two of them would rather stay inside playing games than do anything that requires the slightest amount of planning.
So I just do stuff like that with the two.
- 13 days
you have very strong opinions on particular linux distros
or when you figure out that you’re living in a cult compound
- 13 days
At some point their corpses start to smell unbearable and you need to find fresh bodies.
No but really, same with what others said. Make sure they treat you kindly and respect your boundaries and such.
- 13 days
they leave you feeling worse after you interact instead of better
- HobbitFoot @thelemmy.clubEnglish13 days
It is weird how a lot of the new norm for parents is to isolate yourself from your friends. I remember a generation ago where parents were a lot more social while still having kids.
- 13 days
There’s a lot more stress now. We’re struggling to make time for anything because we both have to work full time to be able to live in the city. Exhaustion turns into apathy, turns into isolation.
- HobbitFoot @thelemmy.clubEnglish13 days
I get that there is more stress, but I also feel like there is a greater distance of friends and a higher “minimally acceptable reason to see friends” which makes the bar to seeing friends seem higher.
- 13 days
Might be so. I also feel like our parents didn’t have social media. The parents of millennials and gen X, that is. They had no choice but to make phone calls, send letters, or see each other in person.
I keep closer contact with my friends almost every day through messaging apps, and so there’s not as much social drought as it might seem when you go only by how often we see each other in person. I also game several times a week with a couple buddies, play badminton—there are other social outlets, so to speak.
- 13 days
genx and boomers i know regurlarly stay in contact through traditional means with friends. the ones that doesnt use smartphones heavily for communications that is.
- 10 days
- 13 days
One thing that can happen: If your current friends demand something from you other than hanging out, kindness and maybe occasional favours, they’re not really your friends.
I mean, maybe you still want to be in whatever tribe, but be aware that a cult or gang or industry network is a different thing.
- [deleted]@piefed.worldEnglish13 days
Additional or as replacements?
Additional could be you don’t have enough for a group activity, or because you have interests not shared with your existing friends, or you have lots of spare time that doesn’t match up with current friends.
Replacement was covered ny everyone else. No friends is better than shitty friends, but getting away from shitty friends opens up time to meet new people.
- some_guy@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish13 days
Been there. When you don’t feel a connection. When you don’t want to respond to their comms. When you feel dread about speaking with them.
Fwiw, I have the most wonderful friends. Some people just move apart.
- givesomefucks@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
What do you mean?
If you’re lonely because you don’t have people to hang out with, you need more friends.
If your existing “friends” are shit, you need to not be friends with them. If that puts you in the situation above, then you now need new friends to compensate for losing the shitty ones.
But most people have the drive to meet new people in their teens and twenties, and by 40s you’re fullon in prune friends mode, no new friends.
Occasionally that also leads to needing more friends. Especially if you got pruned instead of pruning.
But it’s really that simple.
If you’re lonely often, you need new friends. Doesnt automatically mean get rid of the old ones.
Like Senor Chang said:
Silver and gold ladies, silver and gold…
- 13 days
When they uproot their “normal life” and move into their vehicle and ask if they can park on your driveway and use your water and electricity and shower all because they don’t want to be part of “the system”.
(He could afford his normal life, we talked about it frequently)
